I just uploaded a video to YouTube on a lesson I learned awhile ago on how to have a “win, win” situation in business. About five years ago I had a cleaning business working over 3 counties. I was in this business for ten years and really loved it. I learned a lot of business lessons back in the day which have carried over to my Online business today. I have a question.  Are you in business for yourself?  This is a real duality question.  I remember cleaning homes for people, and the thought came to me back then as well.

Am-I-really-in-business-for-myself? The truth is, kinda and kinda not.

Isn’t it true no matter what business or job you have, you are helping others?  Most jobs come down to a form of service one way or another.  So the question rises again are you in business for yourself? I think understanding the duality of “pain and  gain” will help you answer the question, and will change the way you connect with potential customers or business partners.

I remember those days of working very hard to make somebody’s day much better. After they’ve put in a long day of work they come home to a spotless house.  Their busy lives became my personal gain! The harder I worked for others to help their day and week go a little better the more my business grew. The duality of pain and gain if operating from abundance is a thing of beauty for all persons involved.  I didn’t have to convince my client to keep my service, in fact they helped spread the word of-my-service.

When talking with people about your business the timing must be right, and the decision must be theirs. If this is not the case you will have to convince them every month to stay in the business.  Having the question, “what’s in it for me” comes from Ego, and Ego will tromp your success every time. Coming from abundance makes you attractive to others. Abundance says, “What’s in it for them.” The true spirit of “help” comes from aligning yourself with abundance.

Does this mean, never do anything to help advance your business?  No. But, what this does mean is, “letting go of the Ego” and truly help others with their quest. Allow them to think for themselves without you convincing them, that what you have, is what they need. This is the key to your success, and this is what will keep your business partners close to you.

They made their own decision to partner with you, without you convincing them to partner with you. This is a lesson to be learned and it’s a biggy. It takes personal growth to let go of Ego and trust in your inner spirit to connect with people on a deeper level. The fact is, not everybody wants your business. For some people it just may not be the right fit for them. Wouldn’t it be better for all parties to let it go of the outcome, rather than using convincing language to persuade them to join you in business, when they really didn’t want to.  This will only come back to bite you in the butt latter.

I’ve uploaded a short video on this topic as well. Your thoughts and comments are greatly appreciated.